11 July 2014
3 Things I Like About Me...
Lately the news is jam packed with misogynistic statements...it seems that world is against women. The schools dress codes for girls becoming stricter while conversation with boys/men about how the problem doesn't lie with a mere outfit is almost no where to be found. Hell, women are against women. Judging looks. Judging outfits. Telling someone they've never met before to 'cover up so my husband won't look at you'. Things like that. Yes, I read that on a blog for real. A very popular blog. It's enough of a blow to someone who already struggles with our society's notions of ageism - I'm almost 40 and have lines around my eyes *GASP*. And bodyism - I'm curvy and have cellulite on my knees. I'm also a heavily tattooed (yes, I still get shit for that) and well-educated baker who isn't having kids. There's not much to represent me in mainstream media right now. There's not much representing women in general. It can be frustrating and maddening and saddening...
But as I head into this weekend I want to remind myself that while I struggle with and against a number of things, both in the media and within myself, I've got a lot of good things going on with my mind, body and life. A LOT of good things. SO MANY GOOD THINGS! You have to remind yourself all that good when you're fighting a whooooooooole lot of bad.
I'm willing to try anything once...within reason. Whether it's fashion, food, books or tubing down a polluted river (yep, that was my 4th of July experience in Helen, GA), I'll give it a whirl once. You've all heard the sayings about seizing the day and living in the moment but I really try to embody that concept on the daily. Why not, eh?
I know myself and know when I'm not going to compromise. Okay, I just wrote about trying new things as much as possible but I also try to draw limits. Gah, that's a fine line. For example, I've gone out to the bars for *insert thing here* but you know what? I hate going to bars. Hate it. So, I don't do it unless it's a going away party or a special occasion (like Athfest). It's liberating and fulfilling to say 'no' sometimes just as much as it is to say 'what the hell...why not?' because you know yourself because you've been willing to try new things and push the envelope. And as a Southern woman this is a big deal for me because I was taught to constantly compromise. Yay for changing a lifetime of ingrained habit!
I try to be happy as much as possible. Happiness is work. Hard work. And I'm so proud of myself for choosing happiness over anger as I've become older. Oh, I used to be a very angry lady at one point in my life. One of exes was a very negative guy and really hurt me (verbally) and it took me a long time to realize that my anger towards everyone and everything had to be addressed. Years where I partied hard, made even more horrible relationship choices (verbally and physically abusive ones) and did whatever I could to avoid self-reflection. Now, I'm thankful every day for a wonderful partner, my dogs/kitties, my education, my friends and my life. I'm happy. Because I worked, and continue to work, for it. I deserve it. So do you.
I also like: my hands, my scarred up knees (I rode BMX as a kid), my defensive driving abilities, my affinity for clogs, the different voices I use for different animals, my cookie making skills, my ability to read a 250 page book in a hour, my ability to wash a sink full of dishes in under 5 minutes, my ability to quote feminist literature, the way I use a fork, how I can pick things up with my toes, my blue eyes and dark hair, the way I can wear florals with flair, the way I can give a look that kills a conversation and so much more.
I'd also like to hear what you like about yourself. What makes you the person you are?